Crequa,
If, at age 36, you're living paycheck to paycheck, you haven't yet lived hard enough. That is, life hasn't been hard enough on you yet to motivate you to make the changes that can make your life easier. Unless you're a Bill Gates style genius, dropping out of school dooms you to lower income for life. Make a point of getting your GED if getting a high school diploma isn't feasible. Then get training and or education specific to increasing your income potential. It might be a college degree or vocational-technical certification, but if you keep on doing what you've been doing, you'll be stuck right where you are. Your life conditions won't change unless and until you change what you have been doing.
You, your wife, and kids need food, clothing, shelter, and probably transportation to survive. If you're spending money on things that aren't on that short list, you're spending money like a moron. For example, you have tattoos. Tattoos aren't on that short list, so don't buy any more of them until you have money that you could flush down the toilet.
When spending money on the things on the short list that you actually need, spend wisely. Don't go out for lunch. Brown bag, as others posted. I brown bagged my lunch for 50 years. I didn't have a budget, but I knew I was saving money every day. If you're living paycheck to paycheck, you don't need a smart phone, a TV, or video games for your kids, or a Sage fly rod.
Analyze your actions. If your actions aren't aimed at either reducing your expenses or increasing your income, you're on the wrong track. Get on the right track. Good luck.
Sg