Christmas Cheer

#46
Christmas is what you make it. Everybody has something to be sad about during Christmas. But there are also a lot of things to be grateful for too. This year i am grateful that i did not have to add a new photo to my Christmas tree of loved ones i have lost.

In my everyday life I can be pretty judgmental and critical, shoot from the hip kind of gal. I am not Pollyanna by any means. really hate when things don’t work the way i want them to or if people disappoint me by lying or not following through or not doing their job.

But around Christmas i try really hard to not go there. Lately I’ve turned off watching all news and focus on the nice stories. Did y’all hear the one about the homeless man in Sumner who found $17,000 in cash outside a food bank and turned it in to the police? It was not claimed within 90 days so the police turned it over to the homeless man who in turn donated the money to the food bank. It was front page news day before yesterday.

That’s the kind of story i like to focus on this time of year.

So i guess in a way i’m lying to myself as Charles points out. But it’s my choice and i’m better for it and so is everyone around me. You can make a choice and roll with Christmas however you want to. But i will want to limit my time with folks who focus otherwise just because they don’t like Christmas.
 

Salmo_g

Well-Known Member
#47
My greatest Christmas cheer comes from sharing time with family, which is all too limited since 2 of our 3 daughters live out of state. Some years they come to visit, and some they don't, like last year when the middle daughter and her husband went back east to visit his family for the holidays. So my perfect Christmas would include more time with my kids although I know that isn't realistic.

My biggest Christmas conundrum is that I'm conflicted. I absolutely abhore the crass commercialism that is Christmas. (I went to the mall yesterday and spent about an hour there and came away traumatized, needing a drink. Actually more than one drink.) On the other hand, I love to give things to family members. Some of the family is really into the gift-giving thing, and some decidedly aren't. I guess that is our religious-political divide. And for my part, I've reached that stage where I have no idea what to buy anyone. We're all middle class families, and we all have absolutely everything we need and most of what we want. It makes me wonder what the point of all this gift-giving is. Other than that it feels good to give someone something that they actually will appreciate. Which reminds me of the mall and other stores. There is an unlimited supply of "stuff" priced from $19.99 to $299 that none of us needs, and I don't think any of us want. We're all pretty picky about the "stuff" we accumulate. A first world problem, right?

My cheer is that we picked out a hella' nice tree that's still in a bucket outside. We'll bring it in either tomorrow or Saturday and begin decorating it. And I've got a party both Sat. and Sun., so it will be fun to get together with friends and enjoy the food and drink. Low pressure festivities, I'm looking forward to that.
 
#49
About giving.... years ago when struggling financially, the Mrs and I decided to only make gifts for everyone but our kids.

We found this is now expected....examples over the years:

Chutneys, Aprons, Torrone, peanut brittle, fresh breadand jam, picture frames, cookies in a jar, mushroom ketchup, etc...

Shipping and packing sometimes sucks, but it's worth it.
When I was in university, Pops and I would make things for my mother for her ecksmas gifts. We would design and build in his shop. We made a cherry-and-hickory coffee table one year and a cherry corner curio cabinet another. Pops and my bro made her a hickory dining table a few years ago--I got home in time to help a bit.

Mom has pretty well learned that she isn't allowed in the shop for about half of december.
 
#53
Well, for the first time in decades I'll be spending Christmas by myself. Suffice it to say the MIL and I are like oil and water, so heading to Idaho to see her has never been fun. This year my wife and her daughter will be going and I will stay home. I don't think the MIL will miss me...;)

I've got a few projects to work on and some good books from @Rick Todd to read. I might make a good Guinness stew for dinner and wash it down with some porter and Irish Whiskey.

It should be a rather peaceful time I think....
 
#54
...and like Roper I will also be alone again here at the Rocking K. It won't be fun but I'll have the usual holiday big charcoal grilled rib eye, a baked potato, a tossed salad and a nice zinfandel. Later in the day a chocolate sundae for desert.

We stopped giving gifts years ago when ungrateful nieces and nephews were too busy to even say thanks. We concluded that was easy-just don't send anymore and we never did. We didn't observe Xmas as a gift giving time but instead gave gifts to each other at all times of the year. That seems to be best, why make someone wait almost a year for something they would enjoy right now.

And like Salmo I hate what Xmas has become. I was in Spokane today and the sound of Xmas music everywhere just pissed me off. Like Halloween it was better when it was just for kids. Be generous every day, just not at Xmas.
 
#55
I hate Christmas. Am I allowed to say that? Well I did!!!

Spending all the stupid money on gifts for other people. Listening to stupid Christmas music. Decorations. Blah blah blah.

I am pretty much the ultimate Scrooge. I agreed to go to my fiancé’s parents house for 4 days for Christmas. Honestly I pray every day for bad weather so we can’t go. 2 days unpaid to travel just to do a bunch of stuff I have no interest in. Shoot me now


Hate christmas
 

Old Man

Just an Old Man
#57
I hate Christmas. Am I allowed to say that? Well I did!!!

Spending all the stupid money on gifts for other people. Listening to stupid Christmas music. Decorations. Blah blah blah.

I am pretty much the ultimate Scrooge. I agreed to go to my fiancé’s parents house for 4 days for Christmas. Honestly I pray every day for bad weather so we can’t go. 2 days unpaid to travel just to do a bunch of stuff I have no interest in. Shoot me now


Hate christmas
I feel like you do. You give gifts but the party getting them don't like them or think that we spent to little on them. And do they say "thank you". Hell no. Everytime my wife makes my supper I thank her. I have been doing this ever since we have been married.
Over 45 years. And yes, I forget the day we got married. Have been doing that for over 45 years.

Why change now and remember it.
 

Jim Ficklin

Genuine Montana Fossil
#58
We will have a great Christmas gathering as usual - Kids & their families, their Mom & her hubby and we all get along. As I stated a couple years ago at such a family gathering: "We would be categorized as a dysfunctional family. Maybe more families should adopt that, because we have all remained close throughout and we continue to do so."

This will be my Grandson's first Christmas and it's going to be fun! We quit exchanging gifts between the adults several years ago, and like others have said - I give gifts to my Kids throughout the year. Life is good.
 

Jojo

Trout Fear Me
#59
On Christmas Eve as we have done for the past 40 years, my whole family of both parents, my two brothers, their wives and kids and their grandchildren, my sister’s kids and her grandchildren and sometimes even my sister’s ex-husband all gather at my one brother’s house. I haven’t counted how many this means yet but it’s a lot. And it can get pretty chaotic since my brother’s house, while very nice, is only about 1600 sq feet.

My parents now have 5 great grandchildren ranging from 15 to 7 months, and this year we decided that is ONLY who we we buy for. Nobody else gets presents. This is our first year doing this and it’s so much easier and will be much less mess.

Also since it’s too hard to do the whole turkey dinner (we used to always BBQ it) My sister in law and i got tired of serving everyone only to sit down to our own meal finally and have it all be cold, so we are now doing real gumbo, with a real roux and shrimp and andouille and okra (if i can find it). My brother is making a pot (he’s very good at it) and i am making another pot. I just started making it but i’m getting pretty good at it now after taking a class in New Orleans.
 
#60
In my 20’s I lost interest in most Holidays.
In my 30’s and 40’s I get to experience them through the eyes of my 8 and 10 year old Sons and with all of the energy and effort my Wife puts into it for them.
Not the gifts, just the other parts.
Now I cherish these holidays as my Sons inch closer to flying away from our nest someday.