Allison's list is off the charts. I don't have all of the exact items, but have many similar ones and enjoy every last one of them. I'm not an ultralight dweeb that cuts the labels, logos and tags out of everything. I don't buy the things with all the holes drilled in them. I don't always use the ultralight alloys. I have on occasion even carried an 8# air mattress in my pack so me and the misses can awake well rested. Normally a camping pad or even cheaper, thermo bubble wrap from a hardware store (like they use to insulate garage doors and such) works like a charm. And I'm still cooking with a ten to fifteen year old campingaz cook head that snaps onto the blue gas mix canisters. Not super light, but super reliable. As for packs, nothing super high end except my black diamonds with built in avalungs for winter recreation, but all effective and a pack in every size from a day trip in the summer to full length trips in the middle of the snow cycle.
and if you ever feel like upgrading your cookware i highly recomend a whisperlite international and a GSI soloist. its all ya need. Like you im not a ultralight guy (i dont mind the wieght, plus i always carry photogrpahy gear) but I do like to have compact/easy to use items. Saving pack space is more an issue for me then saving ounces. That way i can carry extra "fun" stuff with me. like a sketch pad, camera gear, climbing gear, etc. I need a bigger pack maybe, im currently using a gregory but its kinda small.
we need to do a WFF meet/backpack i think this summer. Im gonna organize it! Post suggestions on locations.