Big "D"
I started tying 15 yrs ago,& like you I was looking for a kit. A buddy suggested I decide on what patterns & colors I was going to start with, buy a decent vice, some tools, feathers, fur, hooks, etc, a starter book to learn the methods & a color book of patterns. (It helps if you have someone to go with or if you trust your local shop not to just make a sale)
The problem with most of the kits is you get little of what you actually are going to use & a bunch of other stuff you never will. Then you have to go out & spend more $$$ on what you need. I went to a respected fly shop, told the owner what I wanted to accomplish.
I still use the vice & bobbin I bought way back when.
Prehaps the most useful of all the purchases made that day is "Flies of the Northwest" available from Frank Amato Publications, Portland, Or. It has been a great reference & source of info'.
Happy Hooking, Jeff:beer2